Getting married is the beginning of an exciting new chapter in your lives. As a church, we are delighted you want to get married here at St Mary’s Eaton Socon, and we want to help you make the most of your special day. We hope your service ‘sets the tone’ for the whole of your special day!
How do we get married at St Mary’s?
The first thing to do is to join us for one of our Sunday 9am or 10.30am services.
This will give you an opportunity to meet a member of our clergy team who will be delighted to lead you through the booking process.
This consists of:
- Discussing dates and times
- Completing a booking form
- Paying a non-refundable deposit of £100
- Completing the ID checks
For proof of identity, please bring a Passport/Driver's Licence for each of you.
For proof of address, please bring a Utility Bill, Bank Statement, Council Tax Bill etc for each of you.
- Booking your places on the next Marriage Preparation Course
After this, you will receive a letter confirming your booking and receipt of your deposit.
Now you can go ahead and organise the rest of your wedding!
When are weddings held at St Mary’s?
Weddings can be held on any day of the week, subject to Church and Clergy availability.
Will there be other weddings on our day?
Yes – there may be other weddings on your day, but our practice is to limit any day to two weddings. This helps to ensure that your special day is unrushed and as unique as possible.
Does it matter where we live?
To get married in church, you need to be able to meet just one of a number of qualifying connections. Such connections include: your parents live in the Parish; you have lived in the Parish for more than 6 months at some stage in your life.
If you're unsure if you meet any of the qualifying connections, please do contact us as we would be delighted to explore what options might be possible.
Banns of Marriage
You will need your Banns read in the Parish(es) you live in and in the church where your wedding will take place (if different). This is a legal requirement for which there is a statutory charge.
How much does it cost?
This depends on what you want. All options will be discussed during the Marriage Preparation Course and agreed when you meet the minister taking your wedding.
If I’m divorced, can I get married in the church?
In a number of circumstances, yes! Please discuss this with the Vicar.
Getting the best out of your marriage
We are also here to help you prepare for your married life together. By getting married in church, you are asking for God’s blessing on your life together – and this is the best start you can have.
As such, all couples getting married at St Mary’s attend the Marriage Preparation Course. This is held over five weekday evenings in the Autumn term before your wedding.
Covering issues such as conflict, communication, commitment and how to handle the in-laws, this course offers the very best preparation for your marriage as well as giving you the opportunity to meet with other couples getting married in the same year.
During this course, you will receive a Wedding Service Pack to help you plan your service with the minister taking your wedding.
2018's course is being held on the following dates:
Tuesday 2nd October at 8:00pm Communication
Tuesday 9th October at 8:00pm Commitment
Tuesday 16th October at 8:00pm Resolving Conflict
Tuesday 30th October at 8:00pm Keeping Love Alive
Tuesday 6th November at 8:00pm Shared Goals & Values
Please note that, due to the Half Term Break, there will be no Marriage Preparation Course session on Tuesday 23rd October.
To book your place on the next Marriage Preparation Course please click on the following link: Marriage Preparation Course Booking Form
If you have any questions regarding the course, please contact Rev'd David Miller by clicking here
There is no charge for the Marriage Preparation Course but as hot drinks and cakes will be provided at each session we do need to know numbers for catering purposes, so please do let us know if you would like to attend.
Planning the service
At the end of the Marriage Preparation course, you will receive a Wedding Service Pack that will help you plan your service.
Approximately 3-4 months before your wedding, you will meet with the minister conducting your wedding.
At this meeting, we will confirm your choice of music (e.g. Organ, Music Group, Choir, Bells etc), the various options available and the order of service. Some couples have even used ‘Barn Owls’ to deliver the rings (not supplied by us)!
If you are planning to produce a printed order of service, we will help to check it for you to make sure everything is right, and copyrights are noted.
This is usually held on a weekday evening in the week leading up to your wedding. Do make sure that as many of the main wedding party as possible can make it.
Any other questions…
If you have any questions, please contact either Tim or his PA Sharon (details below) or come to a Sunday service - we’d be delighted to help!
Rev’d Timothy Robb
Tel: (01480) 212219
PA to the Vicar
Ms Sharon Lewis
Tel: (01480) 352154
To contact Tim or Sharon, please use the Contact Us Form